A SELF-GUIDED AUDIO COURSE
Breaking the Pattern
Β Most relationship courses teach you to cope.
This one teaches you to change.
There's a difference.Β
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No fluff. No sugarcoating. A direct, honest program that helps you identify exactly which pattern is running your relationship β and break it. On your own. At your own pace.
$297 Β Β·Β One-time payment Β Β·Β Instant access
SOUNDS FAMILIAR?
You've tried to fix it.
It keeps happening anyway.
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Same argument. Different day. Nothing ever actually gets resolved.
You've had the conversation. Multiple times. Nothing changes.
You're not in crisis β but something keeps feeling off underneath.
You know something needs to change. You just don't know what.Β
WHAT'S ACTUALLY HAPPENING
You don't have a communication problem.
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Β You have a pattern problem.
A pattern isn't an argument. It's the structure underneath the argument β the same trigger, the same response, the same outcome, every single time. The topic changes. The structure never does.
You cannot fix a pattern by fixing the argument. You fix it by seeing it clearly, understanding why it's there, and making a different choice before it runs on autopilot.
That's what this course is for.
THE THREE PATTERNS
There are three patterns.
You're in one of them.
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THE CHASER
Pursues to avoid feeling abandoned.
You bring it up, push for resolution, need to be heard. The more they pull away the harder you push. The harder you push the further they withdraw. The cycle locks in β and neither of you knows how to stop it.Β
THE GHOSTER
Disappears to avoid getting
hurt.
When things get hard you go quiet. Shut down. Leave the conversation physically or emotionally. Your silence feels like self-protection. To the other person, it feels like abandonment. The distance grows.Β
THE PLEASER
Performs to avoid causing conflict.
You smooth things over, go along, say what's needed to make the tension stop. Things stay calm on the surface. Nothing ever actually gets resolved. And you've slowly disappeared from your own relationship.
None of these make you a bad partner. They make you human. But they will keep running your relationship until you understand them clearly enough to interrupt them.
THE THREE PATTERNS
Four modules.
No fluff. No filler.
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Each module builds on the last. Do the worksheet before you move on;
that's where the real work happens.
MODULE ONEΒ
See It
Name your pattern β not the symptoms, not the argument, but the structure that keeps repeating. You'll identify whether you're The Chaser, The Ghoster, or The Pleaser, and understand exactly why it keeps showing up.Β You cannot change what you cannot see.
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MODULE TWO
Own It
This is the hardest module β because it requires honesty. Most people see the pattern and wait for the other person to change it. That doesn't work. The pattern isn't just theirs. It's yours too. And that's actually the best news you've heard about your relationship in a long time β because it means you have the power to change it.
MODULE THREE
Trace It
Your pattern didn't start in this relationship. It started earlier β in the first place you ever watched people navigate love and conflict. The Chaser learned love requires pursuit. The Ghoster learned conflict means danger. The Pleaser learned keeping everyone happy is how you stay loved. This module traces it back to the origin β because that's how you rewrite it.
MODULE FOUR
Change It
You cannot stop a cycle you cannot see. After three modules, you can see yours. This module gives you three concrete tools to interrupt the pattern in real time β before it runs on autopilot. Not coping strategies.Β Pattern interrupters. There's a difference.
WHAT'S INCLUDED
Everything you need to
actually do this work.
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Each module builds on the last. Do the worksheet before you move on,
that's where the real work happens.
Β 01
Audio Lessons
Conversational and direct β recorded to feel like Lisa is talking to you personally. Not a lecture. A real conversation. Listen while you drive, walk, or sit with your coffee. 8β12 minutes per lesson.Β
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FourΒ Worksheets
One for each module. These are the questions most people spend years avoiding. Write your answers before you move on β that's where you stop reading about your pattern and start actually seeing it.
WHY THIS IS DIFFERENT
"I'm not going to help you feel better about your pattern. I'm going to help you see it, understand it, and break it."
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Most relationship courses validate you. This one activates you. I'm going to be direct with you about what's happening and why β and then we're going to do something about it.
You don't need your partner to be ready.Β One person who understands their pattern and starts showing up differently can change the entire dynamic of a relationship.Β I've seen it happen over and over.
If you do this work honestly, it will change how you see your relationship. And more than that β it will change how you see yourself in it.
ABOUT LISAΒ
Hello,
I'mΒ Lisa.
I'm a certified relationship coach with 12 years of experience working with individuals and couples who are stuck in patterns they can't seem to get out of on their own.
My background includes training in theΒ Gottman MethodΒ andΒ Martha Beck coaching. But what defines my work isn't a single method β it's the ability to see patterns clearly and help people move through them with steadiness and honesty.
I built Breaking the Pattern because I believe this work should be accessible. Not just for people who are ready for private coaching β but for anyone who wants to understand what's actually happening in their relationship and start doing something about it.
You don't need to be in crisis. You don't need your partner on board. You just need to be willing to look honestly at what keeps repeating.
That's where this starts.
WHAT CLIENTS SAY
Real people.
Real change.
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You know something needs to change. You just don't know what.Β
Lisa is my encourager, my guide when I'm lost, my lifesaver when I'm stuck. The best part about Lisa is she really SEES me β and my highest self, especially on the days I can't.
Working with Lisa helped me get to the core of what was keeping me stuck, own it, and take steps forward. Her coaching has guided me through significant life decisions, leading me to greater personal fulfillment.
Lisa helped me really own my power. She pushed me to own it and move toward more improved relationships. I value who I am more because of this work.
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She has supported me through some of my darkest days and inspired me to design a completely new life for myself. I truly don't know where I'd be today without her coaching.
SARAH CLOYD
Holistic Health Coach
IS THIS RIGHT FOR YOU?Β
This work is for people
who are ready to be honest.
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THIS IS FOR YOU IF
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- You're done managing the same pattern and ready to break it.
- You're doing this on your own β your partner doesn't need to be involved.
- You want to understand what's actually happening before deciding what to do next.
- You're willing to look honestly at your own role in what keeps repeating.
- You want to start somewhere real, at your own pace.
THIS ISN'T FOR YOU IF
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-Β You want someone to tell you it's all your partner's fault.Β
- You're looking for a quick fix that doesn't require looking inward.
- You're in an unsafe situation β please reach out for direct support first.
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ENROLL TODAY
Break the Pattern
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Breaking the Pattern
SELF-GUIDED Β· START TODAY Β· GO AT YOUR OWN PACE
$297
One-time payment Β Β·Β Instant access Β Β·Β Lifetime course materials
β Four audio modules β direct, honest, no filler
β Four downloadable worksheets β one per module
Β β Lifetime access β come back anytime
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Questions? Reach out at lisabairdhoey.com
You've been figuring this out
alone for long enough.
The Chaser has been chasing. The Ghoster has been disappearing. The Pleaser has been performing. Underneath all three is the same thing β someone who wants real connection and hasn't yet had the right tools to get there.
